Friday, December 24, 2010

Merry Christmas :)


Where did that time go. 2 months since my last post. And here it it Christmas Eve already.

Life is good. Steve is happy I think. We are happy. There is no conflict that I can feel so life is good. Long may it stay that way.

Weight wise. I am now up to 9.2 kgs lost since the end of July. I have pulled my finger out and lost 4 kgs in 2 months. I have the most wonderful support group at ww and to those special people who know my daily struggles, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Tania, Martine and Sandy you have saved me this year. Or we have saved each other.

Nikki is working at Boost and loving it. She is perfect for Boost because of her bubbly personality. She is getting around 10 hours a week which is perfect.

Ashleigh has just finished year 6 and is a happy child. She has a lovely new group of friends and I haven't heard about any bitching between these girls.

Not like her old friendship group. Some of them are the biggest bitches I have ever encountered. Nasty people. Unfortunately things have blown up with her former best friend who was getting other people to do her dirty work. I worked out that she didn't want to be Ashleigh's friend after 6 years and I saw many signs that pointed to this over the last 2 years. Best friends don't treat each other the way this child treated Ashleigh during that time. Anyway I decided to get the facts on what was really going on and spoke to a couple of girls and their mums about what was happening. I had confirmation from 2 of the girls that this is what was going on. The 'best friend' got other people to tell Ashleigh that they didn't want her hanging around them. Bitchiness at it best. I gave this child, in front of her mother 2 chances to tell Ashleigh if she didn't want to be her friend anymore. I knew she had outgrown Ashleigh because she is more outgoing and makes friends a lot easier than Ashleigh.
Twice she looked me in the eye and told me she wanted to be Ashleigh's friend and she should be standing up for Ashleigh. Well how could she stand up for Ashleigh when she was the one instigating all the trouble??
And now the mother who was a good friend for 6 years has decided to backstab me to mutual friends because I have been saying her daughter is a bully!!!!
For the record, I have never said that she is the BULLY. She is the manipulator. There is a difference. Now the mother will not take my calls to talk about this as we have a few times over the last 12 months. Unfortunately this child is like this because of the way her mother is to people. And that is very sad. I feel gutted about this. I just want my chance to have a talk and put the record straight and put the facts on the table which I can back up. But no, she is the one calling all the shots. She has told me in no uncertain terms, not to contact her or her family or friends. Well hello, unfortunately we have a lot of mutual friends due to a 6 year association of our kids and you will not dictate to me who I can and can't talk to!!!!

Sorry I had to get that off my chest and onto paper, or electronic paper as this is my diary.
I have never met a person like this in my life and I hope I never do again.

Will have to update this later because I have to pick up Nikki from work. And battling the shops on Christmas Eve is something I would rather not be doing.

Ok back later than I thought. Presents are all wrapped and under the tree. We made some christmas goodies today that were yummo. The children are all in bed and we are ready for Santa to come.

I want to wish all my wonderful friends a truly special christmas. I hope you are all very spoilt. Have a fabulous day and a happy and safe new year.


Chris H said...

Lovely to hear things are going to so well for you and the family.

Hippygal said...

Have a wonderful, Christmas and wow look at that yummy food. Merry Christmas :-)

Corin said...

Merry Christmas Tina!! I'm really glad you and Steve are doing well.

I hope everything resolves itself with you and your daughter's old best friends' mom. You two were friends for so long, it would be such a good example to the girls for you to be able to work it out. But I guess if she's unwilling, that would be pretty hard. Man, relationships are a lot of work! Sometimes I guess you've got to let them go though if they're just not fruitful. I'm so glad Ashleigh is part of a more supportive group now.

Happy New Year to you and your fam!

Tania said...

You know my thoughts on the situation regarding bully - I know it's easier said than done mate but you deserve better and it really is their loss not to have you in their life anymore.